The Journey Begins

Thanks for joining me! I am your very ordinary average person who is constantly seeking life happiness and work/life balance. Due to some of my past life experiences such as managing through a divorce, surviving breast cancer and helping a loved one combat drug/alcohol addiction, I have now been inspired to start my own blog to document my past and continuing life journey. During this journey, I hope to help others along the path.

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton

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First Self Published eBook to Make It to NY Times Best Sellers List.

I have purchased this book as an inspiration for writing about my own story. It’s a must read…first self-published eBook to make it to the New York Times Best Seller List.

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April Cancer Awareness

April is the month for promoting awareness of testicular, esophageal and head/neck cancer. I don’t personally know anyone who has had any of these type of cancers but I do understand what it’s like to hear a doctor tell you that you’ve been diagnosed with cancer. It’s a feeling that can’t be described…a feeling that your whole world is being taken over…completely out of your control. I will post more in October on my personal story of having breast cancer but for now, I just want everyone out there who is currently or has previously endured any type of cancer, to know that I’m sending prayers your way and am willing to help you in any way…even if it’s just a daily chat to listen to your feelings.

Book about a Mother Who Has Dealt with and Overcome a Child’s Drug & Alcohol Addiction

I posted an article about this topic yesterday but decided to delete, revise, and repost as I wanted readers to understand that my son is not still an addict but is now doing very well.  He has a great job, apartment, and girlfriend.  We both had many ups and downs through it all and still continue to work on our relationship that was damaged during that time.  I personally still have issues dealing with the anxiety of him potentially relapsing, but I do try my best to live life with a very positive attitude that it will not happen again.

There are a lot of people out there who have absolutely no idea that I have dealt with this issue.  It is a very difficult subject to talk about and that is why so many people do not know my story.  However, I feel that it is now time to tell the world about it so that I can hopefully help others who are so afraid of what to do or who to talk to.

As a mother dealing with the never-ending guilt of a child’s former drug and alcohol addiction issues, I am hoping that my story will relate to many other mothers out there who have not had the success that I have had.  There is nothing lonelier than a mother suffering from the guilt of her child’s addiction issues, whether they are in recovery, still addicted or no longer living.

I am currently writing a book about this pain and success of surviving through it all.  My hopes are that the book will be self-published as an eBook by end of 2018 and would love to hear all issues/ideas regarding this painful problem.  Throughout the year, I will provide updates and glimpses into my first attempt at writing a book.  If I can help only one mother out there who lives in that dark world of guilt and regret, then I will feel that my book was a success.

Cute Dining Room Wall Decor

My blog is pretty generic…not just one niche…but more about all of the ways to embrace a beautiful life.  It may seem that I am blogging about multiple irrelevant topics but I think that it takes various interests and hobbies to make a more beautiful and engaging life.  Soooo…one career that I wish I had went to school for years ago would be interior decorating.  I have a great interest in it but not the best at it since I have no formal education.  However, I am currently obsessed with the app called Design Home, which is teaching me some things about the various styles of decorating.  My current style would be mixing old with new.  Check out my cute dining room wall, where the letters were handmade and painted by my youngest son.  The old cheese graters and greenery were purchased at one of my favorite stores called Hobby Lobby.

Hello Organized Self!

Some Organization Tips for the Extremely Unorganized

Do you feel extremely unorganized?  Do you feel like you never know where anything is like you’re having to search for that remote in the couch again? Are you constantly having people follow-up with you on why you haven’t finished certain tasks or answered an email that was sent to you three weeks ago?  Is the dust on that ceiling fan an inch thick or more like mine is right now?  If so, then I am hoping the below tips might help the both of us.

Since I have worked in the accounting field for years and am self-diagnosed as somewhere in-between a Type A personality, defined as competitive, ambitious, impatient, aggressive, and fast talking (McLeod, 2017) and a Type B personality, defined as relaxed and non-competitive (McLeod, 2017), I pride myself quite a bit in my most of the time ability to organize things, tasks and processes.

Due to the more “relaxed” part of my Type B behavior (McLeod, 2017), I do tend to take a little while sometimes to get started on deciding how to best organize things, often due to getting distracted very easily by looking at my phone to check the stats of my blog or design a room on the app called Design Home or sometimes to go exercise instead, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing by the way.  Those might be other forms of my self-diagnosed, googled illnesses such as ADD or OCD, but anyway, I believe those illnesses or rather personality types, might just have an advantage for me and that is how to keep things organized, whether it be my closet, email, or life in general.

Before we start though, I have been in such a busy, distracted, and overwhelmed place in my life here lately, so this article is also an attempt to remind myself of what I need to do to get back on track with organization in my life.  There are times in life though where any one of us can get so overloaded that it is not humanly possible to even think beyond the immediate fire that needs to be put out, but, with that being said, I would like to share a few of my own personal very simple tips for staying organized in the midst of careers, school, families and more.  I know that a lot of you already do these things and more, but it does truly amaze me at how many people don’t.

Create a home for everything.  That home isn’t your dining room table, your nightstand, or your car.  That home needs to be a basket for the animals/kid’s toys, a cute decorative tray sitting on your foyer table or something hanging in your kitchen to put the incoming mail until you get to it a week later or whenever.  Just don’t put it down on the first available surface you come across when entering your home or office.  Also, when you are finished with anything, go ahead, and place it back in its home, throw it away or recycle it.  Just do something with it so that you don’t have to ever touch or think about it again.

Do not multitask.  Employers, please do not hate me as I know this piece of advice is the total opposite of what most of you say that you want in a good employee.  I just don’t agree with it and neither do a lot of experts (Bradberry, 2014).  Our brains are not made to multitask, and multitasking makes us less productive than if we would just focus on one thing at a time.  That means not clicking on your email every 3 seconds when one pops up.  Stay focused on the task at hand.  You can check the email when you are finished or at a good stopping point.  If the email is truly that urgent, then I am sure the sender will either call you or walk over to your desk to talk to you about it.  This can also apply to our personal lives where we are looking at our phone while watching a movie or spending time with family.  In my opinion and experience, you cannot be that engaged in the task at hand if you are doing anything else at the same time.  I know it is very difficult thing to do with all our pressing responsibilities but please just try focusing on one thing at a time for a while to see if you feel a little more relaxed and organized.  I promise that you will.

Clear your email inbox out every day.  I am amazed at how many people leave emails sitting in their inbox forever.  They never create folders or trash them.  Do one or the other after reading each email.  If answering the email will take longer than the amount of time you have right now, flag it but don’t just leave it sitting there until next month or the next year.  I personally looked at an inbox today that had emails dating back for at least a couple of years if not more.  How would you ever remember which ones you needed to do something with if you keep them all in the inbox?  Move them out of the inbox, somehow, somewhere else.

Create a one or two-week meal plan with all ingredients in a pre-made shopping list.  If you are an extremely busy person like me, this will eliminate you having to spend so much time thinking about what to feed the family or yourself every day.  Sure…it will take a little bit of extra effort up front but most of us tend to be creatures of habit so just make a list of your favorite and easiest meals.

Simplify your wardrobe.  If you are like me, you might like to go on random shopping trips where you buy random pieces of clothing, just because they are on sale or it looks cute.  But then a year or two later, you realize that shirt, pair of pants or scarf has been hanging there all that time with the tag still on it…all because you didn’t have anything to really go with it.  Don’t do that to yourself or your wallet…just a huge waste of money and time spent looking at it, thinking about it or not fitting into it.  If you haven’t worn something in two years, it is time to either buy something to go with it, sell it or donate it.  Don’t let it just overwhelm your closet space.  And the next time you go shopping without a true purpose in mind, please make sure that you go ahead and buy an entire outfit or don’t buy that piece at all, especially if you have nothing else in your closet to go with it.

Make a list of household chores and spread them out through the week.  I used to spend almost an entire weekend cleaning my house.  That was very depressing after I had worked a job all week long and truly wanted to spend my weekend relaxing or doing something fun.  I find that it is easiest to make a list of weekly chores and spend a little time each day doing something instead of an entire weekend doing them all.  This also works for monthly, seasonal, or yearly things like cleaning baseboards, ceiling fans, blinds, etc.

I know there are many more organization tips out there but, if you are as busy as me, it becomes overwhelming to read a very extensive list or implement it, so I find that just trying to follow these few simple tips above, it does seem to make life a lot easier whether at work, home or school.  Underwhelm and organize your self today for a more stress-free life!

 

References

Bradberry, T. (2014, October 8). Multitasking Damages Your Brain And Career, New Studies Suggest. Retrieved from Forbes: https://www.forbes.com/sites/travisbradberry/2014/10/08/multitasking-damages-your-brain-and-career-new-studies-suggest/#3490027856ee

McLeod, S. (2017). Type A personality. Retrieved from Simply Psychology: https://www.simplypsychology.org/personality-a.html

 

 

9 Steps To Writing Your First Book

Success Strategies

It’s such an exciting time to think about publishing your very own book! It certainly was for me when I did my research and got it published in the Journal of American Academy of Business Cambridge (JAABC), as well as my books on success strategies and leadership. I am now busy writing a new inspirational book. Tons of Lush near Edible excitement especially when you receive the first printed copy! Woo-hoo!

I have been getting requests from interested first time writers and decided to share my personal thoughts on how to get the writing done in order to get published. To be honest I understand the Seriousness of this goal. So here are my own 9 steps to get you going.

9 Steps to Getting Your Book Done

1.Develop that mindset.
Goal achievement begins in the mind. Think of the saying “if you can imagine it you can achieve…

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